Blame It On The War

“Sometimes I find myself alone at night with nothing but flashbacks and echoes in my head.”


Ever since I left Syria, I lost a part of me that I know I can never get back.

It was never too emotional, I barely knew Syria, I wasn’t an outgoing person in Syria, but in my dreams I only see myself at my home, there, in my room. And it hurts so much that I can’t talk about it.

I hate explaining it, I hate feeling insecure or incomplete or having no country to call my own, difference is good, but this one surely isn’t.

The pain of war and losing one’s country and primal source of pride can get through your ego, it never leaves, it’s always there, somewhere buried inside you.

I didn’t face what other people faced, I have never seen a dead body, I have never been attacked, I have never been in real contact with anything you see on tv.

But I only felt the sense of having no country to call my own, I only have memories of fear, fear of losing my family, my friends or myself. At a very young age.

I’ve only been embarrassed because of what’s happening, I’ve only dealt and still am dealing with people’s reactions when they know I’m Syrian.

I’m not much of a poet and this isn’t some kind of a message for anyone to feel sorry about us in.

I only think that many people in this world suffered and are suffering from war and maybe one day when they read this maybe they could be able to relate to what’s going on inside my head, and I want them to feel that they are not alone in this.

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Science Of Love Detachment.

“Attachment is the source of all suffering.” Buddha

And Buddha got it right, again.

Attachment is the source of our suffering. when we become attached to something we become fully dependent on it.

It becomes our possession, our obsession, our sweet addiction that makes us wanting more until we find ourselves another getaway to become dependent on.

What I’ve been reading and researching about for two years is love.

How do our brains fall in love? Why do we fall in love? How do we overcome the power of love obsession and become more in control of our deep unconscious thoughts? Are all mentally strong people detached from their emotions?

I don’t know if I can answer all these questions and I can tell you that I haven’t found the power on how to become detached from my own feelings towards someone yet but I do know how to write about it.


Attachment for both women and men is the same, and I mean attachment as in a kind of an OCD.

When you can’t take your mind off them, when you idealize the other person who’s only a human being and is full of flaws just like you and me, when you find yourself thinking about your moments together instead of focusing on the present, that’s how you know you’re fully attached.

We, humans, tend to say I love you too soon, we tend to give up on our crucial very personal routines for that one special person who can easily crush our heart and walk all over it without even shedding a tear.

It hurts, but you know what also hurts? Knowing that it’s you to blame. You were just too attached.

So how do we not get attached?

Easy. It’s all in your mind.

  1. STOP FANTASIZING ABOUT THEM.

Stop the daydreams, stop the thought right when it happens. Shift your thoughts to something else. Train your brain.

2. KEEP YOUR OPTIONS OPEN.

3. POINT OUT THE NEGATIVITIES.

You see something wrong in them? Keep it in mind. Write it down. Yes, we all have flaws, and it’s okay to point other people’s flaws, you’re not being rude, you’re only being realistic.

4. DON’T GIVE THEM TOO MUCH OF YOUR TIME.

You have to go to the gym? Don’t cancel to see them.

Priorities come first, and that is going to be you. You are your first priority. Then comes friends and family. Then, them.

5. STOP THINKING ABOUT THE FUTURE.

You desperately want to be with them, with them with them. Like, as a couple, as in a relationship.

But what’s the fun when you want to jump into a relationship before even knowing the person?

6. KNOW WHAT YOU EXACTLY WANT.

Set yourself some standards and raise them as high as you want, You’re special and you deserve all the best.

7. WRITE DOWN YOUR BEST QUALITIES AND HAVE SOME SELF CONFIDENCE.

8. AND FINALLY, REMEMBER THAT:

The less attached you are, the more peaceful you are.

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Why You Should Take A Break From Media

This virtual world is driving you crazy, I can imagine.

Our world has changed and it would never go back to the way it was before, to the farms, the manual games, the late candled nights.

I haven’t lived in that time and I’m actually thankful for that.

I am a millennial, easy life, born to be a robot.

But eventually it tore me apart, I’m bored, I can’t take this fake life, likes, comments, views…

I made my decision to put myself first, before social media, before anyone else.

I took my time and realized that I have made the best decision ever, for my own sake.

This disconnection opened a magnificent window into my mind and soul.

Even though being absent and blogging doesn’t match, sometimes you just have to take better care of yourself, which is more important than anything.

I’m meeting great people, I’m living the moment, talking with great minds, reading helpful books, I don’t need anyone to tell me that I’m doing well because I know I am and I wish people could feel the same way I am feeling right now.

1. Take Time To Learn More About Yourself.

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2. Be Present.

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3. Love More, Not In Comments.

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4. Free Your Mind Of People’s Stupid Opinions.

pexels-photo-37728.jpeg5. Make Time For Those  You Truly Love.

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6. You Don’t Have To Share Everything With The World.

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7. You Don’t Have To Be Perfect.pexels-photo-57905.jpeg

8. Get Better Sleep At Night.pexels-photo-269141.jpeg

9. Wake Up Without An Obsession. 

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Karl Marx As A Social Media User

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How To Be Smarter

1. WATCH DOCUMENTARIES.

If you don’t like reading, like most millennials, Youtube is there to help! 

Watch some documentaries on world history or follow some cool channels that would make you think more! 

I personally recommend (SciShow, CrashCourse, AsapSCIENCE, Ted-ED, The School Of Life, Tedx TALKS, and DOMICS) Check them out, they’re awesome! 

 

2. MAKE FRIENDS WITH SMART PEOPLE.

Pick the nerdiest people you know and hang out with them, double the fun! They would know everything about everything and would teach you some really cool tricks and hacks you could use in real life!!

 

3. WORK ON YOUR VOCABULARY. 

Download an app and subscribe to “word-of-the-day”. It’s cool to use smart words every now and then. 

4. DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK QUESTIONS.

If you don’t know something, don’t be shy, ask! 

Learn more and believe me, people would be glad that they would have the chance to explain something to you, Lose that “I’m going to sound stupid” crap, we all sound stupid. Be brave and go for it!

 

5. TRAVEL MORE.

Work, Save cash and stop spending on stupid shit. Go somewhere you’ve never been to before! Learn about other cultures and develop new habits from people who come from different places!

 

6. BE MORE INTERNATIONAL.

Let’s say you’re from some random country and went to a place where there are people from different ones. DO NOT ONLY SPEAK WITH PEOPLE OF THE SAME NATIONALITY AS YOURS. Make friends with people from different places and make your own “International Squad”.

 

7. BE MORE INTO ART AND MUSIC.

Know your favorite type and explore more. 

8. A HEALTHY BODY= A HEALTHY MIND.

Dump the crappy junk food and try some salad! 

You won’t regret it! 

Do some sport and force yourself to go and to reach that healthy good looking body you’ve always been dreaming of.

 

9. DON’T TALK ABOUT YOUR PERSONAL LIFE.

Trust me. Nobody Cares. Unless it’s your therapist.

 

10. LEARN A NEW LANGUAGE.

 

11. LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES.

12. BE MORE EMOTIONALLY SMART AND BE INDEPENDENT.

We all end up alone, so try to be more self-reliant when it comes to relationships.

 

13. BE A STRONGER PERSON BY RECOVERING FROM FAILURES.

Opportunities are everywhere these days, if you didn’t get one job, you’ll get another. 

If you failed a test, you can try again.

If you didn’t get into one university, you’ll get into another one. Have faith in yourself and breathe.

14. AND FINALLY, BE KIND, DON’T BRAG AND WRITE MORE.

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My Life As A “Syrian”

I’ve always wanted to talk about this topic but I never found enough courage to do so even when it takes a HUGE part in my life because basically, It’s who I am and where I came from.

I know how difficult it is to feel discriminated against mostly every time I tell people where I come from.

It doesn’t necessarily contain bad words, it’s the look that I get after I say it, that makes me feel like an alien from a different planet. 

When people hear that I’m Syrian, at first they stop talking (Pause for a second or so) then they continue talking while secretly staring at me with curiosity and sometimes hatred, arrogance, and even fear! Fear that I might do something as crazy as blowing up something IDK! 

I know how proud people can be when asked where they are from but people like me, who were unfortunate enough to live in such messed country aren’t. Even when they say they are, they secretly wish that they were from another better country. 

We can’t forget that Syria and The Middle East, in general, has the oldest history, Damascus is still the oldest capital in the world.

Science and religion (All Of Them) came from there, people with great minds and great ideas were born there, While sexism takes the biggest part of the Middle Eastern culture now, most powerful queens were ruling it before.

But that’s only history, I can’t be proud of governments killing innocent people, I can’t be proud of people getting killed for their own beliefs, I can’t be proud of women being abused and harassed on a daily basis. I just Can Not. 

The funniest thing I have to deal with as a Syrian is the dumb questions I get asked.

“Do you have traffic lights in Syria? What about houses? Do you have schools and televisions and telephones? Do you have a sea? Do you live in the desert? ” 

Of course, they get shocked when I say I’ve never seen the desert before.

And the funny thing about these questions is that most people who ask me if we have a sea in Syria are from cities on the Mediterranian sea, so we basically share the same sea but they’re too lazy to look at the map!! 

So Please, dear readers, be kind, be compassionate and be smart while talking to Middle Easterns/Syrians. Don’t assume that we’re all jihadis or Jasmin/ Aladdin lookalike people. 

In fact, let’s see some pictures of Syria and know more about it.

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Palmyra’s queen, Zanobia. 

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This writing system was employed in the city of Ugarit, located in western Syria from around 1300 BCE. It later was supplanted by the West Semitic, Proto-Sinaitic-descended scripts.

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Qalet Ja’bar.

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Tartous City. Aleppo-Citadel

Aleppo Citadel. ruins

Palmyra.

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And finally, my city (Damascus).

Thank you,

 Love And Peace.

Judy.

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Pictures Of The City That I’m Studying In.

I live in Montpellier which is a city in South Of France, It’s most common for its international students and amazing weather. 

Here are some pictures with short explanations.

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400 pink umbrellas have been installed in Rue de la Loge, Montpellier, to celebrate Pink October, to raise awareness of breast cancer screening. Continue reading Pictures Of The City That I’m Studying In.